Don't know what I want

I know what you're thinking - NO woman knows what she wants! But up till 2 days ago, I really DID know what kind of kitchen cabinets I wanted. I swear!

It all hit me when we went to Home Depot to take a look at counter top options. Although I would like granite or manufactured stone, I'm realistic, It's not in the budget right now. It can be revisited down the road. We grabbed a bunch of samples to compare with a piece of our floor tile that Lisa is mailing to us...

And THEN I saw the cabinet samples and thought I'd take a look there. Very bad call. Looking at the distressed cabinet samples - I was not happy with what I was seeing. If you looked at one door, it looked nice enough, but when  you looked at it as a whole kitchen - it was over done, made it look really cheap and got me doubting what I had picked out.

What hasn't changed is that I want shaker cabinet doors:

The last kitchen I bought was shaker style and I really like it. I would like all edges to be straight on the lower cabs.

I would like upper cabinets to have an arch on the top (this one has profile - don't want that - want a shaker with an arch)

What I'm unsure about is the surface. Painted or just stained? or painted and stained? or painted, distressed and glazed? or, or, or......

Painted a cream/vanilla color and distressed - just not as much as here.

See what I mean? One door would be nice, but all of them...petty much the same = too much

I know that my doors are custom made and will get a custom paint job. But what can I expect? Will it look tacky? or will it be just enough? of should I just opt for painted and let time do the rest?

I just know me....I handed my toys down to my kids in very good condition, I really took care of my things. Broke my heart that they didn't take care of my things like I did.

If I opt for not distressed....and it gets a ding or a scratch...I'm going to be pretty upset.

What a dilemma!

Aloha Hui Hou!